I Don’t Have to be Big


I have lived in the South my whole life.  Down here, we like things BIG!  We like big hair, big trucks, and big meals!  We use expressions such as “Go BIG or go home!”, “BIGGER is better!”, and (a personal fave) “Put on your BIG girl panties and deal with it!”.  We enjoy the oversized, the overstuffed, and the over the top.

As Christians, these words put a lot of pressure on us to be BIG as well.  We feel the need to make the BIGGEST dessert for the church potluck, put the BIGGEST bows in our daughter’s hair for Sunday School, and drive the BIGGEST SUV in the parking lot.  Okay, maybe you don’t feel that kind of pressure.  To be honest, I don’t either.  I’m doing good to just remember there is a church potluck, to remind my daughter to brush her hair, and to have enough gas in my car to get to church!  However, there are times in my life when I do feel like I have to be big.

My daughter has been battling cancer for over three years.  It seems as though every time we get a breath of good news, a breath of hope, we get the rug pulled out from beneath us.  Some days the hits just keep coming.  I feel like I have to be BIG for my daughter, for my husband, for my family, for my friends, for my church, and for God.  I feel like I need to have all the answers and know just what to say.  I feel like I need to slap a smile on my face and tell everyone that we’re fine.  I feel like I have to let others know that we do trust, we do still believe, we do still have faith.  I feel like I have to be more, say more, do more.  I feel like I have to defend God in our circumstances.  I feel like I have to be BIGGER than what we are facing.

It’s exhausting.  It’s tiring.  It’s unnecessary, and sometimes it’s fake…Sometimes I forget the truth of His word.  Sometimes I forget all He tells me I am through Him.  Sometimes it all gets overshadowed by all the BIG stuff I allow to in my heart and mind.


But you belong to God, my dear children. You have already won a victory over those people, because the Spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world.” 1 John 4:4, NLT 

Did you catch that?  HE is greater.  HE is our victory.  HE is BIGGER!  I don’t have to be BIG and neither do you.  He is BIG enough for all of us and all of the problems that we may face.  Because we belong to Him and because He lives in us, we can simply be.  Not big, not afraid, not fearful, not fake – we can just be who He created us to be.


Father God, we love you so.  Thank you for being all that you are to us.  Thank you for being bigger than anything else.  You created it all.  You can control it all.  You are in us, and you are for us.  In you, we are enough.  Thank you for being big for us and for everything we may face.  Forgive us, Father, when we try to be something You never intended us to be.  Help us remember that in You we can find rest, we can find peace, and we can find hope.  We don’t have to feel pressured.  We don’t have to be big.  Fill us with Your wisdom, God.  Help us to see our lives through the truth of Your word.  May we honor You with our actions so that others can see You and Your goodness.  We love you and ask these things in Jesus’ name, Amen.


Is there something in your life that is causing you to fear, to doubt, to worry?  Do the pressures of your life make you feel overwhelmed?  Do you feel the constant urge to be BIG?  I know it’s not always easy, but I urge you (and me) to lay it at the feet of our mighty God. He is far greater than anything we may face.  And remember – He is in you!  He has already given you the victory. You have such freedom in this promise.  You have the freedom to just be you – His beloved child.

Have you ever felt the need to be big?  Tell us in the comments.  Let’s share and grow together in Christ. 

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